For those of you that don't know...MBM is the one day that I get to have 1 mean moment for the week, and get it out of my system, then I go back to being the loving blogista we all know and love. Wink! Please feel free to have your own MBM moment too. It feels great!
This weeks Mean B_tch Monday moment might piss you off, but you know what? You knew what you were getting into when you joined me for this Monday ritual...I still luuuub you though!
(REMEMBER THIS IS JMO) :)
Obviously, this was going to start a ridiculous bottle vs. breast debate, and rehash stupid crap that has been repeated over and over. Urgh! Annoyed party of 1, your table is ready!
The article was titled "I formula fed. So what?" Sorry, but I love the title.
"I wanted my body back. (And some wine) ... I also wanted to give my boobs at least a chance to stay on my chest rather than dangling around my stomach" said Blundell.
Okay, I am not against breastfeeding and have done both bottle and breast. So Whoa Nelly!!
Whoooooo!!!! First, of all this broad has some b_lls, to say honestly what I am sure other (not all) women would like to say too. She is being crucified for "defaming" breastfeeding and blah, blah, blah. Back to the fuel fed drama! She expresses many times to the desexualization that breastfeeding made her feel, and how it was just plain "weird" for the "objects" of many passion filled episodes, to now be viewed as innocent and necessary for survival of a beautiful baby. All in all SHE felt awkward! So what?!
So, just because the magazine is titled Mother & Baby, it should not include viewpoints on the other side of the fence from breastfeeding radicals? Come on.
"There was no respect at all shown to women who chose to breastfeed, just insinuations that they are "weird" and "creepy" for doing what is natural. This woman wouldn't breastfeed because she wants to "get tipsy". You have a newborn baby! Can't you act with a little self control and not "get tipsy" for a while? What a selfish, unnatural, childish woman. I feel sorry for her child(ren). She certainly shouldn't be deputy editor or a mother and baby magazine. How about stating your preferences without trashing others? I hope she loses her job."
Can you not judge? Where in the article did is say that moms who breastfeed are weird, creepy, freaks? I think it was one part of the entire article that spoke of "getting tipsey," you are just the judgemental freakazoid mom, who makes other "unnatural" moms hide their experiences and opinions for fear of mommy backlash. WHY should she not be editor of the magazine? You should feel sorry for your own kids for having a closed minded jerk of a mother.
"Theres nothing creepy about breast feeding a baby - but theres something very creepy about the author's views! I dont have children but I believe breastfeeding is a matter of personal choice, and no one should preach to anyone else about it. That said, I do find it odd that this mother has prioritised the sexual function of her breasts over the needs of her baby. Because formula milk cannot possibly match the real thing. I do wonder if this woman should have chosen to have children, she doesn't sound very maternal! "
Okay...why are you commenting??!! Moron.
"God created you a woman and I wonder why? One reason is that if you have a child you can feed your child naturally as God intended. Creepy? Shame on you. What utter utter rubbish!!!
Speaking of rubbish...did God text that message down to you and then tell you to criticize and JUDGE this woman? Wow, what does he say about anyone other then himself passing judgement??
Personally, I have to say that I agree with the "creepy" feeling. As a new mom, the first time I placed my daughter to my breast, it was and had been up to that point unnatural for me. I didnt make it a regular habit of placing babies to my boobs between studying and bar hoping. Who are others to judge what is considered "natural" behavior? Is that not up to the person in most cases? I also felt a little weird about pulling my blouse up (even with a cover up,) in a room with both my dad and my husband in it. Pumping? I tried to breast feed Bean, and succeeded for a couple of months, but thanks mostly to pumping. Even then, I found myself feeling like a cow with a suction cup attached to my breast, and the embarrassing "sound" caused by the machine. Bzzzzzzmmmp bzzzzzmmmp bzzzzmmmp. I also suffered from jabbing pain and was engorged most of the time. Comfortable? F_ck no! Wonderful for me? Never. I did it because I felt so much guilt from giving up with my daughter, and I had been made to feel like, if I did not breast feed, I would appear to be selfish and not care about my son. This is just my opinion. I don't knock you for having yours, and I don't think that it is acceptable to attack this woman for expressing what HER individual experience was.
To the Judgemental Freakazoid Mom,
Get over it, and go back to your mommy world discussion boards, where you spend all day talking shit and arguing with us "unnatural" moms. Its getting old. Do what works for your kid, and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing. Is that not the bottom line? I have said it once and I will say it again, as long as the end product is a healthy, happy, loved, and nurtured child, why waste time debating? In a perfect world right?
Completely agree with you!
ReplyDeleteTo me is a matter of "to each it's own"...
I agree, my thing I dis like is all the "if your kids breast feed they wont be sick" or " it makes them smarter"
ReplyDeleteWell then Target must hook their formula up cause my kids have NEVER been sick and are super bright =) I just didn't feel comfortable doing it and my kids are healthy as can be.
ooooh, i don't even know where to start with this one. such a major debate. and a silly one.
ReplyDeleteit is to each their own, and i completely praise every mother who at least tried to breast feed. i know its not easy. i know all too well.
i think it is also a media issue, the reason breastfeeding groups promote things like 'healthier babies, smarter babies etc' is because they are at battle with major competition. huge industry that can hand out free samples and diaper bags and promote how 'easy' it is to formula feed. truly, and nobody can argue this, their first goal is money. so, that's why breastfeeding groups say things like that, because it generally is the truth, so they use what they can.
i don't condemn anybody for speaking about formula feeding or their reasons to. but language and media outlet choices do need to be considered. you will always get back lash. be ready for it. and i also think that proper knowledge should have been considered, "having some wine" well, research it, because you can have drinks and still nurse. alcohol does NOT affect breast milk. so her article, was going to bring some criticism naturally. but should she lose her job? no. she really didn't do anything wrong. she just told her story, in a very 'in your face' attitude.
i think you've just given me a post topic.
haha.. anyways, thanks for posting.. sorry i went on so long.
I FORMULA FED MY SON AND BREASTFEED MY DAUGHTER. so.. if anybody wants to argue me, i have been on both sides of the fence.
Fair enough, the formula giants do have the money edge. So, I guess it is fair to say that using her position and influence could be viewed as a punch in the gut to breastfeeding groups. I guess I can understand the frustration, but I also feel that it is extreme to say that she needs to apologize or lose her job. I praise her for having the nerve to do the "in your face" attitude. To me, it says, I am who I am, and I dont care what you think." How could we as a society promote speaking up and standing up for yourself, yet limit it to certain situations and/or topics?
ReplyDeleteI appreciate your comments! Thanks for sharing, no matter how long! :)
I love your attitude about parenting. Sorry I took so long to visit from Friday, but I'm following you back now! :)
ReplyDeleteHere's what I think, as long as you are feeding your baby I don't care how you do it. Too much judgment. It's hard enough being a mother without having to hear everyone's opinions on what you should be doing.
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